Goodbye existential fears – and how these fears never become reality

existential fears

Many people suffer from existential fears. They think things like:

  • “How should I pay the rent next month?”
  • “I’ll end up on the street and starve!”
  • “Everything will definitely go wrong and I’ll go down with …”

The self-employed and entrepreneurs are particularly often affected by existential fears, as they have significantly less government security than employees.

The current corona situation naturally triggers these existential fears very strongly. Many people act out of this fear, which leads to …

  • Shops are bought empty in panic,
  • the staff in the supermarket is insulted and
  • People stashed tons of pasta and toilet paper in their basement.

In this article, you will learn how to best deal with these existential fears. By the way, the solution is different than you might now suspect …

“We do not create abundance. Abundance is everywhere. We create limitations. “

Arnold Patent
(American author and trainer)

In this article you will learn:

  • How to get rid of your existential fears and where they come from
  • Why existential fears are self-created and how you create them for yourself
  • That it always goes on somehow
  • What financial freedom really is and how you can achieve it
  • A “strategy” that guarantees that your financial fears will never become a reality

Resolve existential anxieties

A little note beforehand: You will benefit most from this webinar if you watch it completely and without interruption. So only watch it when you have plenty of time.

Do not necessarily try to understand everything with the logical mind. Sit back and make yourself comfortable, and listen more like you would listen to music. (And sorry for the bad lighting)

What are existential fears?

Existential fear is the fear of not being able to cope with one’s own life and, in the worst case, of dying as a result.

Often existential fears have a financial motivation: We think that our financial means are insufficient and that we lose the basis of our existence.

Behind every existential fear lies subconsciously the fear of not being able to cope with the expected situation.

Often, however, it is not just one situation (e.g. that we are fired) and the film of fear picks up speed. This creates a kind of chain reaction in which one situation leads to the next. And often in the last place is death.

Let’s look at this in an example:

As already mentioned, the self-employed and entrepreneurs are particularly often affected by existential fears.

The train of thought that the self-employed no longer gets enough jobs is, for example, the start of a typical existential fear.

This thought is spun on: Because there are no more orders, the self-employed can no longer pay their bills and rent. This leads to the fact that he and possibly his family end up on the street. This is often accompanied by the fear of losing social recognition.

In extreme cases, these lines of thought go so far that the self-employed person thinks that he and his family will die on the street under the most adverse circumstances.

Such existential fears are always present, even though, objectively speaking, nothing could speak for such a horror scenario.

But not only the self-employed and entrepreneurs suffer from existential fears. Existential fears are present in all possible groups of people and income groups – yes, billionaires also suffer from existential fears and in percentage terms probably no less than other income groups …

Many people are affected by existential fears, but the way we deal with these fears differs:

While some are paralyzed by existential fears and prefer to stay in their supposedly secure employment relationship, the billionaire’s existential fears drive them to amass even more wealth.

Neither the behavior of one nor the other is healthy because their actions are motivated by fear .

I would also like to mention at this point that no matter how much money the billionaire accumulates, it will never be enough and he will continue to be plagued by existential fears.

It is a fallacy to think that once you have the sum X in your account you are safe. We will come back to this in the course of the article.

I too know existential fears all too well. I would even go so far as to describe my former self as the “king of existential fears”.

I would like to explain how bad my existential fears were with a short example:

In early 2020 I flew to Asia for a few months to live and work from there.

When the plane took off in Berlin, I felt a panic that I had seldom experienced. I was carried away by this fear, had tears in my eyes and was totally desperate.

As much as I was able to, I watched my thoughts. These went in the following direction:

“That’s it now! So far it has somehow worked financially – even if I don’t know why … But it’s over now! I will end up on the streets in Asia, starve to death there and die miserably … “

I was exhausted and worried all sorts of things about what might happen in the next few months. The worries felt very real.

At that moment I would have given anything to turn around to make myself comfortable in my safe comfort zone.

Now that you are reading these lines, you can already imagine that I did not starve to death on the streets of Asia.

On the contrary, because around three months after this panic attack, I am financially better than ever:

  • For the last two weeks of my trip, I lived with friends in a luxury villa in Bali.
  • On my last day in Bali I gave away around 400 € to some Balinese who were already suffering extremely from the slump in tourism.
  • Back in Germany I ordered a new cell phone and a new notebook, among other things.

So my fears had absolutely nothing to do with reality. But where do these fears come from?

Where do existential fears come from?

Fears can arise from various causes. Psychology assumes that a large part of the fears comes from childhood and I would subscribe to that – especially with existential fears.

There are two reasons for this:

1. A child learns from his or her parents

You will probably have a lot of what your parents gave you when you were a child.

These can be things that support you in your daily life. But there will probably also be some beliefs that stand in the way of you and your happiness in life.

A child learns by copying the behavior of those close to them. This means that what the parents say to the child is less important than what the parents set an example for the child.

So fears were passed on unconsciously from generation to generation.

For example, two lost world wars left deep-seated fears in German-speaking countries that were not properly dealt with.

Especially in World War II, a large number of people lost everything and then they were afraid that this could happen again.

Accordingly, people were constantly worried about money and their survival, and the innocent children subconsciously absorbed this behavior, following the motto: “It seems like you do it …”

In addition:

2. A child is not able to reflect on himself or on the behavior of other people

A child identifies 100 percent with the experience they are going through.

A child’s consciousness is not yet sufficiently developed to reflect on itself and on the behavior of other people.

For example, if the mother is upset and takes that anger out on the child, the child relates it to herself personally. He is unable to see that his mother’s anger has nothing to do with him.

We never perceive the world as it is, but always only our interpretation of it. In this way, each individual creates their own reality .

The “tool” with which we create our reality is the thought :

“Mom is angry with me for doing something wrong. Something seems to be wrong with me … “

But our interpretation of certain past situations must have absolutely nothing to do with reality.

Our reality is created by our thoughts

Through our subjective interpretation of objective situations in connection with the fact that we copy the behavior of our parents, (wrong) conclusions are gradually drawn. On ourselves as a person and on life in general:

  • “I am not good enough.”
  • “The world is a bad place.”
  • “There is never enough of everything.”

The sum of these convictions form a kind of glasses through which we perceive the world.

The dangerous thing in this is that we always interpret our subjective opinion into objective situations and thereby our beliefs become more and more solid. In psychology this is called confirmation error .

We are not aware of many of these beliefs, yet they create our reality – over and over again.

So fears are nothing more than deep-seated beliefs:

  • “I’m going to starve!”
  • “It will go wrong and I will lose everything.”
  • “Nobody likes me.”

These inner fears are triggered and thereby triggered by objective external events.

In relation to existential fears, this can be:

  • The corona virus paralyzes the entire world economy.
  • The employer announces job cuts.
  • In one month, sales are down 15 percent.

A situation is always what it is. However, through our thoughts we interpret our subjective inner fears into outer objective situations. The result is that fear comes up and we feel accordingly.

Existential fears are not real! However, they feel real …

A thought itself has no power over you.

Only when you put energy into a thought and take it to be the ultimate truth will it appear real to you and create your experience in the present moment.

Your consciousness has the fantastic property of making every thought you think appear real.

Since the feeling always follows the thought, you will also feel accordingly. Often we are not aware of the thought triggering the feeling and we only notice that we are feeling bad.

So if existential fears arise and you let yourself be carried away by them, the horror scenarios will seem real to you – thanks be aware …

However, these fears often have nothing to do with reality, because fears are always projected into an imagined and thus not real potential future.

The only thing that is real is the present moment and no one can say how it will continue. Life is not math and there is no such thing as control or security.

Still, the resulting fear can affect your future:

Why is fear a bad advisor?

Simply put, there are two ways to deal with fear:

  1. You can get carried away by fear.
  2. You can see that the fear is not real and thereby dissolve it.

These two extremes form the black and white. But of course there are many shades of gray in between.

Mostly it comes down to one of these shades of gray: We are carried away by fear and this determines our behavior. Still, part of us is awake and watching what is happening.

As a result, the light of consciousness shines into the dark cellar, so to speak. This gives us the opportunity to clear out and tidy up in the basement – i.e. to recognize that the fears are self-created and thus to let go of them.

This is unlikely to go away completely, but it will weaken it.

The next time the fear is triggered by an outside event, it is usually no longer as strong and we can deal with this fear better.

If we are carried away by fear, it also ensures that we get caught up in our personal thinking.

We envision all kinds of horror scenarios that are sure to happen in the future. Then we often try to solve these problems that only exist in our thoughts with further thoughts about them.

Even if these problems have already become a reality – for example, you are a hairdresser and are no longer allowed to work during the Corona crisis – there is no point in getting caught in our worries and doubts.

This only ensures that our gaze becomes narrow and we can no longer perceive all the possibilities around us.

Crises always bring opportunities . And no matter how “bad” your situation may look, you have the opportunity at any point in your life to step onto the wave of life and to surf on it.

There is also no point in resisting this wave: Either you surf it or it will carry you away.

There are many shades of gray between these two extremes. As you can probably guess, the far more comfortable way to get through life is to surf the wave than to be swept away by it.

However, if we get caught in our fears and then let the fears determine our actions, it is more likely that we will be carried away by the wave of life.

We see ourselves as victims of the circumstances, we offer inner resistance to the current situation and we rack our brains about (= having a lot of thoughts) what we could do next.

However, this is not really effective.

What can you do instead?

The first step is to understand:

It always goes on somehow …

At times in my life things have looked very dire financially.

In these phases I didn’t know what to do next, I got totally caught up in my existential fears and self-doubts . Sometimes it was even so bad that I had suicidal thoughts.

But no matter how bad and hopeless my situation looked for me, somehow it always worked and it went on.

“If the only thing people could learn was not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world.”

Sydney Banks
(Scottish Spiritual Teacher and Author)

Sometimes money came in almost magically, or another solution was found. And even if the worst-case scenario really happened, in retrospect it was not so bad.

From my work with my clients and groups, I know that somehow other people also kept going – no matter what tricky situations they were in.

How about you?

Have you ever been in a situation in which you no longer knew financially and then a solution was found?

Probably already!

At least 90% of your fears will never become a reality anyway and only exist in your mind.

Even if your fears become a reality and you have to file for bankruptcy, for example, you don’t know what can result from it.

Once again:

You don’t experience the bankruptcy yourself, you experience your thoughts about it. Ie everything that happens is neutral and through your thoughts you create a situation …

  • … good or bad.
  • … right or wrong.
  • … pretty or ugly.

Someone who sees bankruptcy as an opportunity to start a new business will have a very different experience than someone who resists the situation and clings to the past that no longer exists.

In addition, we often judge too quickly. Because a lot of what the mind initially rated as “bad” turns out to be a great advantage in retrospect.

And once again: No matter what the current situation may be, you can step onto the wave of life and surf on it at any point in your life.

What can you do to get on the wave and surf it?

How to surf the wave of life

When people fall into stress and panic (= they get caught up in their personal thinking), they tend to try harder and run even faster.

However, this is the wrong approach and often only adds to stress and panic.

Instead, I recommend doing the complete opposite: letting go and letting your mind calm down.

Imagine a glass filled with stale old wine. To make room for new fresh wine, you have to empty the glass first.

When we get caught up in our personal thinking and have a lot of anxious thoughts, it is like the glass: there is no room for new, more constructive thoughts.

Your mind can connect at any time with the all-embracing wisdom of the greater universal mind.

“My brain is only a receiver, there is a core in the universe from which we gain knowledge, strength and inspiration.”

Nikola Tesla
(Serbian inventor, physicist and engineer)

This universal wisdom is available to you at any point in your life. She is ready to guide you through your life.

Perhaps you know the situation when you are desperately looking for a solution to a problem and suddenly you think of it while showering, exercising or walking. This is exactly what I am writing about.

Wisdom or intuition comes to you in the form of new thoughts. The prerequisite for this, however, is that there is room for new thoughts at all.

If your mind is filled with many thoughts about your current situation, which are actually only going in circles, this space does not exist.

That’s why I advised you to let go and let your mind come to rest.

When I get caught up in my thoughts, it works quite well for me to go to bed with my earplugs and a sleeping mask on, as if I were trying to fall asleep.

However, I try not to fall asleep, just to be very calm. I often know what to do again after 5-10 minutes.

In terms of existential fears, when those fears arise, I sit back, relax, and in no way try to solve these mostly made-up problems with further thought.

This gives me more and more financial freedom.

What is Financial Freedom Really?

As already mentioned, I would describe my former self as the “king of existential fears”.

Accordingly, the topic of money / wealth / abundance is probably the topic in which I have invested the most energy in recent years and have read many books and attended some seminars on this subject.

In these “how-to-get-rich” seminars and books I heard over and over again that the goal is to achieve financial freedom.

Financial freedom was defined as follows:

“To be able to live the desired standard of living without having to work for it.”

Since this sounded very desirable to me in the past, I made an effort and worked in a disciplined manner to achieve this goal .

I thought that once I am financially free, I will finally have security and that will dispel my existential fears. I also hoped to finally be happy through financial freedom .

In a way, I achieved this goal: When my first book “ Self Discipline ” became a bestseller, I was making more money each month than I needed for my standard of living at the time – without having to work for it.

And now the price question for you:

Do you think my existential fears disappeared afterwards?

No of course not!

“ I have no money and will end up on the streets!” Became simply “ I’ll lose everything again and end up on the streets! “.

(A couple of notes on this: I wasn’t really that much happier after I achieved this goal, by the way. Furthermore, sales went down at some point and I’m still alive. Besides, the decrease in sales also brought something very good with it, even if I was opposed a lot of resistance and caused me a lot of suffering.

From one of my mentors I heard the story of the $ 600 million man who came to my mentor because he wanted to be coached by him.

My mentor said that this man often woke up thinking, “Today is the day I’ll lose everything!”

If even $ 600 million is not enough to dispel existential fears, it means that no matter how much money you amass, it will never be enough to eliminate financial existential fears.

So how can you resolve existential fears?

Very easily:

I want to remind you once again that we do not live in a world of circumstances, but in a world of thoughts.

That is, you never experience a situation in itself, you always experience your thoughts about it.

When it comes to money, it means that you never know your account balance, just your thoughts about it.

Let’s say you have € 100,000 in your account.

How would you think about it

Is € 100,000 a lot or little money for you?

No matter what your answer may be, it is YOUR thought!

The number itself is objective, how you think about it, is subjective and creates your reality for you.

While some would be happy if she suddenly had € 100,000 in the account, other people would get a crisis.

The 100,000 € only serve as a projection surface for our thoughts. And our thoughts are not a reality. However, it is our thoughts that create our reality.

As soon as you have realized that you live in a world of thought and what power your thoughts have, external circumstances gradually lose a large part of their power over you.

So if it doesn’t really matter what number is on your bank statement, this creates a new definition of financial freedom:

Financial freedom means being relaxed, NO MATTER what number is on your bank statement.

how does it look in action?

About two weeks ago I got two “bad” financial news: Income that I had firmly expected did not come or turned out to be lower.

In the past, this situation would have triggered my existential fears and I would have been swept away by my film of fear that I would die miserably on the street.

In all honesty, I’ll tell you that I’ve seen a few thoughts in this direction. But on the whole everything was fine because I just accepted the situation without giving it much thought.

In me there was more of a trust based on the motto: ” Well, the money just comes in a different way … “

The fact that I have now understood how the money game works certainly contributes to this trust:

How your existential fears are guaranteed to never become a reality

Let’s go back a few centuries where wood was an extremely important resource. With wood, among other things:

  • heated
  • cooked
  • Houses built

Suppose you come home from work one day and your partner tells you that you have almost no wood left.

How do you react

Do you have thoughts in the direction of: “ Oh my God, we have run out of wood, we will all die! I’m such a failure, my mother was right … “

Probably not.

More likely, you will go to some effort and choose one of the following two options:

  1. You go to the forest, chop wood.
  2. You go into town and buy some wood.

Now we take the same situation. Only this time your partner doesn’t tell you that you hardly have any wood left, but that you hardly have any money.

What now?

Quite simply: You put in some effort and raise money.

How can you raise money?

By being useful for other people and creating added value for them.

Your income depends on the following three factors:

  1. The quality of added value that you can deliver for other people.
  2. The quantity of added value – i.e. how many people you can create added value for.
  3. Availability – how easily can other people benefit from the added value that you can offer them.

Let me give you an example:

Suppose you were the only person in the world who could cure large groups of people from all diseases by the laying on of hands. If you wanted to, you would be the most materially wealthy person in the world.

However, if there were 10,000 more people who are also blessed with this gift, you would still have a lot of money, but there would probably be other people who would have more money.

It is beneficial if you really love what you are doing. Because people notice the love that has gone into a product / service. Plus, you can only be really good if you really enjoy something.

In the end, of course, it is also crucial that people know about you and your offer. The best product won’t sell if no one knows about it. This is where marketing comes in, which, just like selling, is a skill that can be mastered by anyone.

I promise you one thing: If you are really useful for other people, i.e. if you create added value for them and they know about you, you will never go hungry and end up on the street.

Finally, one more thing:

Abundance is the natural state in the universe!

During my time in Bali I experienced the most important holiday of the Balinese, Nyepi, the day of silence.

Among other things, the lighting should be reduced to a minimum on this day, which means that a starry sky is visible at night as I have probably never seen it before in my life.

I was lying with my friends in our garden and we looked fascinated at the starry sky, on which countless stars were visible.

Did you know that every star is a sun like ours? In addition there are mostly planets that orbit this sun.

Did you know that there are more suns in that part of the universe we know than there are grains of sand on earth?

Abundance is the natural state in the entire universe.

Wherever you look you will always find abundance. On a large and small scale:

  • There are innumerable suns in the universe.
  • There are more leaves on each tree than you can count.
  • Countless blades of grass grow on 1m² of lawn.
  • Your brain consists of almost 90 billion nerve cells.
  • Your body is made up of 30 trillion cells. There are also 39 trillion bacteria in your body.
  • A single cell in your body consists of 100 trillion atoms, which is 100,000,000,000,000!

However, since we live in a world of duality, you must be able to experience lack at the same time. And the tool you use to create the illusion of lack is your thoughts.

You also have the opportunity to think that the abundance around you should look different and you can constantly focus on what you think you are still missing .

Perhaps you have thoughts like: “ Abundance is well and good, but what about the people who starve to death on earth every day? 

I would like to answer you with a quote:

“The world has enough for everyone’s needs, but not for everyone’s greed.”

Mahatma Gandhi
(Indian lawyer, politician and pacifist)

Humanity is able to create shortages collectively.

Greed and the misconception that material possessions make people happy mean that millions of people live in dire circumstances and that 24,000 people starve to death every single day.

In theory, it is very easy to change this: For example, the annual budget that the US alone spends on arms could end poverty on earth once and for all.

In practice, however, it looks different, because this challenge can not only be mastered by a few, but must be mastered collectively.

Forced redistribution, i.e. taking something away from materially wealthy people, would not help either. In order to really change something permanently, these people would have to give something voluntarily and gladly.

It will probably be a few decades, perhaps even centuries, before humanity collectively has reached such a level of consciousness.

What can you do now

First of all, I recommend that you only look at yourself. There is no point telling other people how to behave.

Learn to deal with your imagined inner lack and the associated existential fears and to resolve them. You have got the “tools” for this in this article.

The more you dissolve your inner lack, the more the abundance will come into your life and you will perceive more and more the all-pervading abundance.

I also still have a lot to learn and have bad days when I fall back into old patterns, but that’s okay. The only thing that matters is the direction in which we are moving. And for me it is clearly the abundance.

Dissolve existential fears – conclusion

Existential fears are fears that one will not be able to cope with one’s own life and they are often financially motivated.

We often pick up our existential fears from our parents and adopt them without questioning them. These fears are deep-seated beliefs that are then repeatedly triggered by external events.

Existential fears aren’t real, but they feel real. Responsible for this is your consciousness, which lets every thought into which you give energy work.

It makes a difference whether you have existential fears or whether you let yourself be carried away by them. If you let yourself be carried away by these fears, it ensures that your gaze becomes narrow and you can no longer perceive all the possibilities around you.

No matter what your situation is, it will always go on somehow. In addition, you have the opportunity at any time to step on the wave of life and surf it comfortably. Learn to listen to your inner wisdom and let it guide you.

You never know your account balance yourself, you only ever know your thoughts about it. Accordingly, financial freedom means that you stay relaxed, no matter what number is on your account.

As long as you are useful to other people and create added value for them, you will never go hungry.

The whole universe is permeated with abundance. When you dissolve your inner lack and the associated existential fears, you will perceive this abundance more and more.

This article is based on the 3 principles .

What did you learn from this article for yourself?

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